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This weekend, we kicked off a new series, Relationships: Real & Restored, focusing on how the gospel restores and empowers the major relationships in our lives. As we took a closer look at friendship, we see that a true friend is life-giving (Acts 2:46), available (Proverbs 27:10), cares for you when life falls apart (Proverbs 17:7, Ecclesiastes 4:9-11), and speaks truth to you (Proverbs 24:26).

We all need friends who will be honest with us, because none of us is perfect! Having real, honest conversations with friends can be difficult at first, but we have a great resource from John Wesley, who used to gather regularly with a group of friends to ask each other the questions below.  Use these as a helpful way to start a conversation with friends about what God is doing in your life, and to help you speak truth into one another’s life.

John Wesley’s Holy Club Accountability Questions

  1. Am I consciously or unconsciously creating the impression that I am better than I really am?  Am I a hypocrite?
  2. Am I honest in all my acts/words or do I exaggerate?
  3. Do I confidently pass on to another what I was told in confidence
  4. Can I be trusted?
  5. Am I a slave to dress, friends, work or habits?
  6. Am I self-conscious, self-pitying or self-justifying?
  7. Did the Bible live in me today?
  8. Do I give it (The Bible) time to speak to me every day?
  9. Am I enjoying prayer?
  10. When did I last speak to someone about my faith?
  11. Do I pray about the money I spend?
  12. Do I go to bed on time and get up on time?
  13. Do I disobey God in anything?
  14. Do I insist upon doing something about which my conscience is uneasy?
  15. Am I defeated in any part of my life?
  16. Am I jealous, impure, critical, irritable, touchy, or distrustful?
  17. How do I spend my spare time?
  18. Am I proud?
  19. Do I thank God that I am not as others (especially as the Pharisees despised the publican)?
  20. Is there anyone I fear, dislike, disown, criticize, hold resentment toward or disregard?  If so what am I doing about it?
  21. Do I grumble or complain constantly?
  22. Is Christ real to me?